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Why can't I concentrate?

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I’m currently sat by myself. It is raining outside, and the place is deserted. I was supposed to be hosting a networking event today. I turned up and early and sat and waited. And waited. And waited. Nobody came. Not one person. As I sat with my latte and a smile on my face, inside I felt a little sad and disappointed. I mean I know that it is the busiest time of the year and people are so overwhelmed and stressed, but still… I pottered about a little bit. I opened my book to read, I ALWAYS have a book of some description with me. Today I have at least 10 in my bag. I couldn’t concentrate, my mind kept wandering. So, I started research for my next radio show (It’s on Sine FM 102.6 if you are interested 😊 ) It seemed to go well, well for at least 10 mins. My mind wandered again. I browsed the internet and Facebook; I can see what everyone else is up to. I called my daughter and said ‘Hi’ to my granddaughter. She was in no mood for company, my granddaughter that is. S
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How do you treat yourself?

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I know that this is something that I have talked about before, so bear with me as I prepare my soapbox… I hope you are settled comfortably; this could take some time! You do not have the right to treat yourself like shit… Are you hearing me? You. Do. Not. Have. The. Right. To. Treat. Yourself. Like. Shit! I spend so much of my time with other people. Whether I am networking, teaching, working at my clinic or just generally chatting (I like to talk) I am often taken aback at how people talk about themselves. They might be apologising for something completely trivial, saying sorry over every little thing.   Making themselves appear smaller than they are, like they don’t have the right to take up space. Criticizing the great work, they have done (especially my students/clients) or passing credit over to another person. What is going on? Why do we feel this almost subconscious need to deflect positive comments or immediately re-assign the compliment or positive remark to so
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Is it okay to not be okay?

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Today was World Mental Health Day and there was a lot, I mean A LOT of posts on all my social media platforms about how it’s okay to speak out about not being okay. There were suitable hashtags such as #itsokaytonotbeokay and #suicideawareness and lots of ‘copy and paste’ statuses about kettles being on and doors being open. The sentiment means well, and I genuinely believe it’s a good thing. There needs to be a movement towards breaking down the barriers to accessing help when things aren’t going well. What I find difficult to appreciate though is the fact that very often those same social platforms are contributing to feelings of isolation and inadequacy. They are also very useful tools for passive aggressive behaviour or completely direct, in your face bullying. In my life I have tried to commit suicide 3 times. The first two times were very much cries for help, a desperate attempt to stop the pain of the emotions I was carrying at the time. The third time, I’m pretty sure I
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Meditation - Now what do I do?

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Many people believe that during a meditation session a person has to completely clear their mind of any thought s . Now while this may happen from time to time if for a few minutes, it is very common for thoughts and emotions to come to the forefront of your mind.   Meditation allows a person to be more self aware and in control of their thoughts and body. Meditation can help you boost your immune system by relieving stress and supporting a good night’s sleep. It can also help you feel more peaceful and generally happier.   So now that we know a little bit about meditation, how do we do it?   First of all be realistic, the chances are that your conscious mind (the voice in your head) has had free reign for quite a while and will jump around all over the place as thoughts and feelings drift in and out of your head. Tha t ’s perfectly normal and with time and practice you will gain more control over your meditation sessions and this voice .   First things f
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